The violent outbursts that took place this past Saturday in Charlottesville, Virginia have left us all stunned, saddened, and angered. The images of thrown debris, pepper spray, swinging clubs, and bodies flying as a car was driven into the crowd are enough to make one recoil with pure horror. With over 30 injured and one dead, the events are nothing but tragic and heartbreaking.
The racist roots of this event cannot be overlooked. Things went wild when a group of Alt Right protestors (those who believe in the supremacy of whites) was met by an equally passionate mob of the antifa (those who aim to confront racism, by force if necessary). Moments later chaos ensued, and the Charlottesville police force seemed unable to contain the mess. The resulting bloodshed will be on everyone’s mind for the foreseeable future, and rightfully so.
President Trump was criticized for not condemning the racism strongly enough. In his initial press conference, he specifically did not mention any of the groups involved and barely whispered a hint of any racial undertones. It seemed as if he was avoiding it on purpose, and many were quick to assign motives for such misleading talk.
Such an approach is one I cannot accept. My job is not to be a political analyst, and my concerns for this issue are not mainly political in nature. I am a follower of Jesus first and foremost, and as such I believe it is my responsibility to speak up against such evil and violence with conviction, truth, and hope. To my knowledge I have never written explicitly against racism on this blog, something that is not exactly intentional but perhaps overdue to be addressed.
Let me say it clearly: racism is evil. Biblically, it is a sin against God and other human beings. To treat another person as lesser-than simply because of their ethnicity or the colour of their skin—or any reason for that matter—is wicked and vile. Racism has a long history not only in America, but all over the world and all throughout human history. It has always existed and will continue to exist as long as sin remains in this world. But that does not mean we should accept it or fail to fight it. Quite the contrary. We have a moral obligation to oppose it, even at great cost to ourselves.
There are some who have tried to sanction their racism as being an expression of their faith or religious beliefs. This effectively amounts to a double-sin. Anyone who attempts to link their racist thoughts or actions to the Bible, serving God, or Christianity, are either sorely mistaken or intentionally deceitful. They are assigning evil to God, thus adding to their guilt.
Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who put darkness for light and light for darkness, who put bitter for sweet and sweet for bitter. (Isaiah 5:20)
Christians have not always been innocent of racism. I am not naive to this fact and I am not happy about it. But a true reading of Scripture makes it clear that racism is morally wrong and punishable by God. It is one expression among many of the fallen nature of man, and certainly one of the most grotesque ones at that.
The Bible declares that human beings are made in the image of God (Genesis 1:27) and therefore have inherent dignity, value, and worth. Showing prejudice against others is considered a sin (James 2:9), and God himself shows no partiality toward anyone (Romans 2:11). One reason Jesus Christ came was to break down “the dividing wall of hostility” between people groups and create one human race under his loving rule (Ephesians 2:14). God’s offer of salvation is open to any person from any people group without exception (Galatians 3:28). Heaven will one day be the most multi-ethnic place in the universe, filled with people “from every nation, from all tribes and peoples and languages” (Revelation 7:9). The final state of mankind will be one where racism and all sin is eradicated and God reigns over those who love him and follow Christ, living in perfect peace and harmony (Revelation 21:1-4). Until that time we are to treat others as we wish to be treated (Matthew 7:12) and share the gospel with every people group on the planet (Matthew 28:18-20).
It appeared to many that all hell broke loose when violence erupted in Charlottesville. This is not exactly true. All hell broke loose a long time ago when sin entered into the world. Racism is evil and therefore will one day be banned forever to hell, exactly where it belongs. When I say, “to hell with racism”, I mean it quite literally.
Until then, I am calling on my brothers and sisters in Christ to take a stand against racism. We have the most potent weapon against it of all—the gospel of Jesus Christ. This gospel is the good news that God forgives sinners and makes them a part of his family. God is unifying this broken humanity in which we live, and of which we are a part, and redeeming it for his glory and our good. I am a part of that story, and I invite you to be a part of it too. We cannot be silent or fearful in such times. Love compels us to speak up and seek change.
I would like to add one final thing. To those who are racist themselves, who believe they are superior to another based on ethnicity, I say this: I do not hate you. Others might, but they should not hate you either. Hate cannot be overcome by hate. It can only be overcome by love. Not only do I not hate you, I actually love you. And far more importantly, God loves you too. He desires better for you than the pride of racism that you are living in. He is calling you away from the darkness and into his light. God will forgive you of your sin if you repent and follow Christ. He will begin to heal the hate that enslaves you and set you free to love and be loved. There is a better way. You can choose it if you want to. But please know that to reject his offer is to reject him personally, and that will not end well for you. As far as I can search my own heart, I am not a racist person. But that does not mean my hands are clean. I am a guilty sinner like everyone else. I do not speak to you from a position of superiority—that itself would be sinful pride! Instead, I am inviting you to find what I have found: new life in Christ, a place where sinners can be forgiven and renewed by the power of God. In Christ there are no favourites, but we are all precious in his sight. You cannot redeem yourself, but you can be redeemed. And you need to be redeemed. There is hope. Don’t let it pass you by.
As a Christian who many might call “conservative”, I hold to the historical, orthodox doctrines of Christianity. I believe the Bible is God’s Word, that Jesus is the son of God, that he came to earth via virgin birth and lived a sinless life and died for the sins of man, that he rose again three days later and ascended into heaven. All who turn from sin and trust in Christ will receive forgiveness of sin and eternal life. Heaven and hell are real and forever and God will separate those based on their righteous or unrighteous standing before him and reward or punish accordingly. And so on and so on…you get the idea.
These kinds of traditional Christian beliefs have come more and more under fire in recent years, and not just by those outside the Church, but also by those who profess to be Christian. The authority and truthfulness of God’s Word, the deity of Christ, the acceptability of other religions, the view of homosexuality and gay marriage, among many other hotly debated subjects, are increasingly divisive issues within the body of Christ. There are those who hold to historic, orthodox views, and those who set out to challenge the Christian norm.
Among those who push back against traditional biblical doctrines, one of the common mantras they use is that they are questioning widely-accepted interpretations of the Bible in an effort to begin “a conversation”. We should not just believe whatever we are told to believe, they might say, but we should question things. I am simply pushing the status quo in an effort to start a conversation.
Within the past 15 years, the movement that became known as the Emergent Church is a good example of this kind of mentality. Leaders such as Rob Bell, Brian McLaren, and Doug Pagitt sought to take the fundamental truths of Christianity and put them out onto the table for open discussion. No subject, however strongly held by Christians over history, was off-limits. As a result, many Christians picked up this mentality and began to question everything they ever knew about their faith, and various aberrations of orthodox Christianity were formed.
Whenever such a person is criticized by a “conservative” Christian for abandoning sound doctrine, the retort is always the same. All you ever do is shut people down. You are demanding that everyone fall in line with YOUR interpretation. Well, there are lots of different interpretations. I’m just trying to open up a dialogue and have a conversation about it.
Now, to be clear, there is merit to that kind of a response. People ought to question what they are told and be able to voice concern over doubts that they have. The Church should be a place where people can be honest about their questions and talk about them without being pounded into submission. This kind of theological exploration is crucial to someone’s faith becoming their own, and it is a key part of my own story. To that I give my hearty endorsement.
But there is a problem too. It appears that some people are happy to raise doubts about traditional Christian teaching, but have little desire to actually resolve those concerns with any real conviction. They want to be able to question everything, but not actually seek out answers. They want to live in the place of open-mindedness permanently. They want to start a conversation but have no real desire to conclude it.
I was confronted recently by another Christian who accused me of forcing other people to accept my “narrow-minded” interpretation of Scripture. She said that not everyone who loves Jesus agrees with my theology and therefore I have no right to make the kind of “arrogant” proclamations of truth that I do as a pastor and Bible teacher. To be fair, there is a measure of truth to this. I don’t see my job as beating people over the head with Scripture, but rather as helping them see what I see in the Bible for themselves. I have no inherent authority; only the Word of God does. Therefore I consider it my job as a teacher to show people what the Bible says as best as I can, and if they agree that it is really there, then believe it. If not, keep searching. The Bible commends the Bereans for taking such an approach when it came to hearing the Bible taught and calls it a “noble” practice.
 The brothers immediately sent Paul and Silas away by night to Berea, and when they arrived they went into the Jewish synagogue.  Now these Jews were more noble than those in Thessalonica; they received the word with all eagerness, examining the Scriptures daily to see if these things were so. (Acts 17:10-11)
The point is that there is a place for conversation. There is a place for dialogue in discovering the truth. A person should feel free to ask a pastor, I know you said this in your sermon, but what about what the Bible says over here? It seems to be a contradiction, or that your interpretation might be off. I have read before someone teach it differently than you did. Can you explain this to me some more? Any pastor worth their salt would not freak out in such a situation, but take the time to work more on the issue at hand. This is a wonderful thing and ought to be happening a lot in Christian discipleship.
But the problem arises when people want to question everything without trying to find an answer. They are not actually after the truth, but merely the freedom to question the truth at every turn. This kind of mentality is unhealthy and spiritually destructive. It attempts to keep God free from any box that Scripture might seem to paint him into…even though God declares things about himself that squarely put him into a box!
It also gives off a false sense of humility. You are arrogant in thinking that you are right when other godly Christians disagree with you. At least I’m humble enough to know I might be wrong! On the surface this seems like humility, but it is actually a form of pride. Refusing to take a stand on a particular doctrine is itself taking a stand. It is declaring that there is only one way to view the topic (with an open mind), which is quite a closed-minded view towards those who have a doctrinal position on the matter. It is saying, you are wrong to believe what you believe, which is exactly what I am saying to you. So, in reality, we both have a firmly entrenched view that we believe to be the right one. Neither of us is necessarily more arrogant than the other.
In his book What Does the Bible Actually Teach About Homosexuality?, Kevin DeYoung says the following:
“Talking is not the problem. The problem is when incessant talking becomes a cover for indecision or even cowardice. As one who has pastored for more than a dozen years in a mainline denomination, I have seen this far too often. It’s death by dialogue. The conversation never stops after reaffirming the historic position. There will always be another paper, another symposium, and another round of conversation. The moratorium on making pronouncements will only be lifted once the revisionist position has won out. Every doctrine central to the Christian faith and precious to you as a Christian has been hotly debated and disputed. If the “conversation” about the resurrection or the Trinity or the two natures of Christ continued as long as smart people on both sides disagreed, we would have lost orthodoxy long ago.”
I agree completely. There is nothing wrong with having a conversation about doctrine, but the point of that conversation is to come to a conclusion. A conversation that is perpetually open-ended is not helpful at all. It is death by dialogue. Instead, conversations about Christian doctrine ought to help people discover the truth with enough confidence that they can stand firm on it, even in the face of opposition. To simply talk about theology without having a theology is no virtue at all.
So, when it comes to questions and conversation, I want to see it happening. Let’s talk! But only if the goal is to resolve disputes, not revel in them. Discussing personal doubts can be an incredibly valuable thing, but just know that there is an end goal in mind. The goal is to resolve those doubts as best as possible so that God can be truly known and truly loved. That is the whole point of theology. But to purposefully question everything without believing anything means that God is neither truly known nor truly loved. How frustrating it must be for God to reveal himself to us in his Word only to have us constantly ask, I wonder what God thinks about this? We dishonour God and do a disservice to ourselves when we refuse to listen to God’s plain voice.
In fact, that is the core problem since the beginning. The serpent caused Eve to doubt by asking, “Did God really say…?” Such questions are not dangerous if we are attentive to God’s Word. But when we live in the realm of dialogue and not truth, we are a sitting duck for the tactics of the enemy. They worked back then, and they still work now.
It is a terrifying thing to discover that everything you have believed to be true your entire life might be a lie. This is the place I was in as an 18-year-old student finishing up high school in 2005. But first, let me explain how I found myself inside a worldview that was collapsing around me.
I grew up in a Christian home with a mother and father who were devout Evangelical Christians. Our family went to church every Sunday since I was a little baby, and we were raised to believe in God and have faith in Jesus Christ as our Saviour and Lord. Most of my extended family and many of my friends shared these beliefs, and so I was raised in somewhat of a Christian bubble. I don’t think this was intentional on my parent’s part, it was simply the natural outcome of being surrounded by people who had the same faith.
Of course, I still knew people who weren’t Christians, both in my family, in my school, and in my neighbourhood. I cared for these people and enjoyed them very much, but I had a sense deep down that they were missing out on something they needed because they did not share my Christian faith. Sometimes I would be brave enough to talk about it with them, other times I simply wanted to fit in like any other kid. As a result, I spent much of my high school life vacillating between two inner personalities: one that was unashamed of Christ no matter the cost, and one who tried to fit in and be liked by people. I later discovered this was a miserable way to live, because it meant I was never really my true self at least half of the time, only pretending to be.
That was until around age 17 when I began to wonder which version was the real me. Was I actually the devout Christian who struggled with compromise, or was I slowly emerging from immaturity into a reasoning man who had no need for fairy tales?
This was right around the time of the rise of the New Atheists. New Atheists, unlike your “ordinary” atheist, don’t just merely disbelieve in God. They also see squashing all religious belief as necessary to the advancement of the human race. While most atheists are content to let other people believe what they will and extend a measure of tolerance, New Atheism had no intent on extending such courtesy. New Atheism explicitly existed for the purpose of freeing mankind from archaic belief in an imaginary sky fairy, and needed to succeed in this quest at all cost, because the survival and flourishing of our species depended upon it.
And so here I was in my late teens, experiencing the existential crisis that every person does sooner or later, confronted head on with a cultural movement that attacked the very foundation I stood upon. For the first time in my life I realized that I believed Christianity was true only because I had been told by everyone around me that it was so. Most of the people I looked up to were believers. They all agreed with me that I was on the right track and needed to rescue others from their lost condition. But it struck me one day that I did not believe Christianity was true for any reason of my own. I was simply riding on the coattails of confidence that other people had in their own faith.
The New Atheists presented a challenge. The “four horsemen” as some have called them—Richard Dawkins, Christopher Hitchens, Sam Harris, and Daniel Dennett—began writing books, doing interviews, and posting lectures online that mounted to a full-on assault of religious belief. Never before had I been presented with arguments so direct, so articulate, and so menacing for the atheistic view. I used to think atheists just buried their heads in the sand and ignored the obvious…but now I was being presented with reasons why religious belief is a joke. And these reasons were ones that I had no answer for. I was shaken to my core.
Statements that packed a punch sent me reeling, dazed and confused. Things like:
“The God of the Old Testament is arguably the most unpleasant character in all fiction: jealous and proud of it; a petty, unjust, unforgiving control-freak; a vindictive, bloodthirsty ethnic cleanser; a misogynistic, homophobic, racist, infanticidal, genocidal, filicidal, pestilential, megalomaniacal, sadomasochistic, capriciously malevolent bully.” (Richard Dawkins)
“On the subject of religious belief, we relax standards of reasonableness and evidence that we rely on in every other area of our lives. We relax so totally that people believe the most ludicrous propositions, and are willing to organize their lives around them.” (Sam Harris)
“We keep on being told that religion, whatever its imperfections, at least instills morality. On every side, there is conclusive evidence that the contrary is the case and that faith causes people to be more mean, more selfish, and perhaps above all, more stupid.” (Christopher Hitchens)
“To put it bluntly but fairly, anyone today who doubts that the variety of life on this planet was produced by a process of evolution is simply ignorant—inexcusably ignorant, in a world where three out of four people have learned to read and write.” (Daniel Dennett)
Titles like The God Delusion, god is Not Great, and The End of Faith all declared with such certainty that I was foolish to believe what I grew up believing. Their contents provided pages upon pages of scathing rebuke for the vileness of religion, God, and belief in the Bible. The message was clear: only idiots or complete sociopaths believe this stuff, and the rest of the world is moving forward. Either join us or be left behind.
I was left with some serious problems that needed reconciling. I did not want to be duped into believing something that wasn’t true. I did not want to have blind faith. I did not want to cling to religion or God, even if it offered comfort in the midst of tragedy. I needed to discover for myself if what I believed had any rational, scientific, historic, or philosophical backing to it. I needed to find solid answers for big questions.
I set myself to pursuing the truth. As much as I could, I tried to take an honest look at the arguments from both sides with an open mind. In all honesty, I was ready to walk away from Christianity if that’s what the results of my findings demanded I do. I refused to any longer follow a belief system without being able to provide a convincing rationale for doing so. I needed to find a worldview that made sense of the universe and was grounded in reality.
Someone once told me that no one learns without first having a problem to solve. I believe this to be true. I was always an 80’s student in school, but I never actually tried to learn much of anything. I just did what I needed to do to get good grades. Yet this endeavour was much different. I found myself reading books for the first time. I discovered an intellectual vibrancy which I didn’t realize I possessed. And I became skeptical. I believed that everyone I listened to had an agenda for winning me over. In short, I discovered critical thinking. Too bad it came that late for me, but better late than never.
Not only was I consuming everything I could find from the New Atheists, but I stumbled upon a world I had never known existed before, the world of Christian apologetics. Here I found people who were far smarter than I, far more educated than I, some even world-renowned scientists or philosophers or historians or scholars, who believed everything I have believed since I was 5 years old. If these people couldn’t help me answer my questions, no one could.
And so my reading list doubled. I began consuming everything I could from Christian apologists and scholars like Ravi Zacharias, Don Carson, Timothy Keller, William Lane Craig, Josh McDowell, C.S. Lewis, J.P. Moreland, and Craig Blomberg. With the rise in popularity of YouTube, I was able to watch dozens of debates between these two groups and assess for myself who’s arguments weren’t up to snuff. While I had no idea how to counteract many of the critiques from New Atheism, I found that there actually were intelligent answers to many of the objections that were raised. To be fair, I did not always find the Christian counterpoints convincing. At times I found myself wincing at what I heard or read, seeing what I assessed to be a critical flaw. But there was certainly more to this discussion than I had ever realized.
This process lasted several years, but one day I had an awakening of sorts. Without even realizing it, it dawned on me that I could never accept atheism as a tenable worldview. This did not mean I was ready to re-accept Christianity, but I knew for certain that atheism didn’t hold enough weight to be the thing I built my life upon. It simply couldn’t be true. There were too many inconsistencies, too many logical flaws, too many problems to overcome. I determined at worst I was an agnostic and at best a theist.
From this point I found the journey much easier. Agnosticism is a challenging view to investigate, since it is simply a shrug of the shoulders that says, Who knows? This of course is true. It’s not as if I could put a bunch of chemicals into a test tube and by the end of the experiment prove God existed, or that I could put a bunch of raw data into a computer and have it spit out the best religion. Therefore I set agnosticism aside and figured I would consider what world religions and various pagan spiritualities had to say.
It did not take long for Christianity to stand out from the crowd. There are a few things that make Christianity unique among religious viewpoints, but the most prominent of the bunch is Jesus Christ. Every other religion has a god that can’t be seen or known, or at best can be described as a feeling or force, but Christianity gave me something concrete to examine: the life of a historical figure who was supposedly God in the flesh. It’s hard to refute the belief that god is in all things; how can you even test such a hypothesis? But if ever there was a religious claim that could be refuted it ought to be the Christian claim about Jesus, that he was a real person who lived at a real place at a real time in history, whose life is accurately recorded and preserved in the Christian Scriptures. There are so many opportunities to be a caught in a lie when religious belief is grounded in something so historical and real. Therefore, Christ and the reliability of the Bible became the focal points of my studies.
What I uncovered dumbfounded me. While so many are quick to dismiss the claims of Scripture, I was blown away to find how much support their is for its historicity and reliability. It became apparent to me that many of the criticisms of Christianity were not grounded in truth. Attacks on the Bible, which originally seemed insurmountable, were largely cleared up with a simple examination of the evidence. Alternative accounts of Christ were exposed as the obvious manipulations they are by merely fact-checking with known history. Over time I found that the endurance of the Bible and the unrelenting centrality of Christ in human history were warranted. As it turned out, the New Atheists were just blowing a lot of smoke.
In short, I believe I discovered the truth.
So, over a decade later, here I am, an Evangelical Christian and proud of it. Only I’m not the same. I’m more confident than ever in my belief that Jesus is the God-man and that the Bible is God’s Word. Once upon a time, I would have said that without having much to back it up. But now I am much more prepared to have my faith challenged. I don’t feel like I’m standing on shifting sand anymore, ready to be crumbled by the slightest distress. Instead, I have a faith that is built on a rock. It is a faith that has been tested and stood firm. It has proven reliable, rational, scientific, historical, and philosophically sound.
And, quite strangely, I owe it all to the New Atheists. Without their influence, I never would have questioned my faith the way I did. It would have remained frail and untested and unlikely to survive. I would never have been able to keep my belief that God is good and that he loves me in spite of having to bury my first child. I most certainly would not be a Christian pastor who has dedicated his life to building solid faith into others who are looking for answers. I would not be who I am today.
So, New Atheist friends, I want to say thank you. I know you intended to bring people like me crashing down in unbelief, and it almost happened, but that’s not how things ended up. You did manage to produce a committed evangelist, however…just not the kind of one you were hoping for.
God created human beings as worshipers. There is something within the human heart that responds to a sight of glory with adoration and praise. This is true of both religious and non-religious people. Worship, though a religious term, is simply being devoted to someone or something. It is showing reverence and honour towards something. It is making a sacrifice in order to protect or procure something. In other words, every person on the planet is a worshiper every moment of every day, because we all are devoted to someone or something that captivates our hearts. For us this becomes a functional god.
In his book Doctrine, Mark Driscoll puts it this way:
Worship is not merely an aspect of our being but the essence of our being as God’s image bearers. As a result, all of life is ceaseless worship. Practically, this means that while worship does include corporate church meetings, singing songs, and liturgical forms, it is not limited by these things, defined solely as these things, or expressed only in these things, because worship never stops. Rather, we are continually giving ourselves away or pouring ourselves out for a person, cause, experience, achievement, or status.
Whatever most dominates our affections is what we worship. And without the power of the Holy Spirit, no person ever worships God. In our sinful nature, we worship and serve created things rather than our Creator (Romans 1:25). We always choose someone or something other than God to be the object of our affections and the desire of our heart. We are all, therefore, idolators.
Idolatry is hard to spot sometimes because it comes in different forms. Some idolatry is obvious, and some idolatry is subtle. But we know from Scripture that idolatry is universal among human beings, and so we would be wise to take a closer look.
I would like to suggest three forms idolatry can take. Perhaps it may help us examine the idols in our lives that rob God of the glory he is due.
1. Pagan idolatry
When people think of idols, usually the first thing that comes to mind is some ancient or uncivilized tribe who are bowing down to an image carved out of stone or wood. This most certainly would fit the category of pagan idolatry. Pagan idolatry is the easiest to spot because it takes on the most obvious forms: some kind of ceremony or ritual that is performed to a deity that is not the God of the Bible.
Pagan idolatry is characterized by practices that are explicitly spiritual in nature but do not involve God the Father, Jesus Christ, or the Holy Spirit. Rather, it may be for some other named or unnamed god. Things like yoga in its truest form, attempts to connect to nature, bowing down to idols, transcendental meditation, and the like, are examples of pagan idolatry. This would also include Hinduism, Buddhism, and forms of nature-driven spirituality. Other kinds of pagan idolatry might include the use of ouija boards, crystal balls, tarot cards, reading the stars, reike, and the like.
2. Secular idolatry
Unlike pagan idolatry, secular idolatry is harder to spot. This is because it is generally free of religious language or typically spiritual practices. But don’t be deceived, it is just as real and just as damaging! Secular idolatry is practiced even by those who don’t consider themselves to be religious in any way. It is the most common form of idolatry in our modern western world.
The gods of our culture include sex, money, power, physical appearance, family, romance, fame, leisure, celebrities, success, food, comfort, image, and the like. People, religious or otherwise, give themselves away to attain these things. They give themselves away in order to to get them and to keep them. They dominate their lives in a way that mirrors religious devotion.
It works something like this. Someone has a false idea of what heaven is, a false idea of what hell is, and they turn to a false god for deliverance. For instance, a teen girl might think the worst thing imaginable is to not be the object of a boys affection. For her, this is hell. On the flip side, the best thing she can imagine is for a cute boy to be totally enthralled with her. This seems to her like heaven. Therefore, in order for her to get out of her functional hell and into her functional heaven, she needs a god to save her: a boy who likes her. Though almost no teen girl would say her boyfriend is a god to her, she often will act like it. He is her first thought in the morning and her last thought before sleep. He is the one who is trusted to take away her loneliness and bring meaning to her daily life. He is the source of her happiness and self-worth. And she is willing to do anything to please him and stay on his good side.
In other words, the boyfriend is her god. She is practicing secular idolatry.
Everyone in North America struggles with secular idols. We all have hearts that turn away from God and to other things to solve our problems and meet our needs that only God can really do.
3. Religious idolatry
The third form of idolatry is religious idolatry. Religious idolatry seems like worship on the outside but is not the real thing at all. Churches are full of religious idolatry because there are always people who go through the motions of religious practices without ever engaging them with their heart.
Imagine a person who goes to church faithfully every week. They sing the songs, listen politely to the sermon, put money into the offering, and perform the various rituals that are expected of them, such as taking communion and being baptized. Because this individual is doing all of the religious things expected of them, they assume that they are in God’s good graces. But in fact they are committing idolatry. Their false god is the religious practices themselves, not what the religious practices point to.
Jesus regularly butted heads with the Pharisees of his day, because they were devoted to their religious traditions without having any real love for God. They trusted in their performance, not God, to save them. They believed that their external holiness meant they were internally holy as well—yet Jesus called them beautiful graves with dead mens bones inside (Matthew 23:27).
There are millions of very religious people who are guilty of religious idolatry. One example is the Holy Doors of Mercy located in St. Peter’s Basillica, Rome. The Catholic church declared a Year of Mercy in 2016 and said that the Holy Doors in Rome would be opened for a limited time, and anyone who passed through the doors would have their sins absolved. This is classic religious idolatry. It is trusting that somehow a doorway can do something only God can do. God alone can forgive sins, and he does so simply by a repentant sinner asking for forgiveness (1 John 1:9), not by passing through a doorway or any other activity, religious or otherwise.
The reality is this: God is real and we were made to worship him. Yet there is only one way to truly worship the One True God: through faith in Jesus Christ. Sin separates us from God, but through Christ we can have the barrier of sin removed and be reconciled to God, freed from the idols that enslave us. Jesus said in John 5:23
Whoever does not honour the Son does not honour the Father, who sent him.
This means to be a worshiper (which we all are) without honouring Jesus is by definition idolatry. Step one of turning from our idols and worshiping God is to honour the Son, Jesus Christ. When we submit ourselves to Christ, and believe on him and Saviour and Lord, we begin a life of worship to God. And a life of worship to God through faith in Christ is the most freeing, life-giving thing a human being can ever experience.
Everybody loves to talk about God’s love. The love of God is a concept we can receive quite easily…after all, what’s not to love about us? (Read sarcastically.) We are fond of the idea of a God who is fond of us, a God who’s love and patience and compassion knows no limits. We all want a God who loves us, and that is exactly what the Bible says God is like. 1 John 4:8 says it so simply, “God is love”. The God of the Bible is a loving God and we are exactly right to say so.
And yet the Bible has a few other things to say about God as well. In addition to speaking of his love, the Bible also speaks about God’s wrath. Some 600 times the Old Testament refers to the wrath of God. The New Testament also speaks regularly of God’s anger, and Jesus himself speaks more about hell and final judgment than anyone else in the Scriptures. There’s no doubt that if you read the Bible in its totality, you are confronted with both a God of love and a God of wrath.
This really trips some people up. A God of love I get, but a God of wrath? What’s the deal with that? Because we bristle at the idea of God’s wrath, more and more people are trying to deny that aspect of God’s character. Not only do faintly religious people deny God’s wrath, but more and more those who are committed Christians are also trying to dismiss the idea of an angry God. It is quite fashionable these days to highlight the love of God while ignoring the wrath of God. Many pastors and Bible teachers are happy to speak of God’s love but avoid speaking of his wrath like a cat avoids water. Yet this is clearly a tactic to skirt the obvious, that Scripture paints us a picture of God that includes wrath and judgment.
It’s a natural question to ask: If the Bible presents God as having both love and wrath, how can those two qualities exist together? How can a God of love also be a God of wrath?
Though this question presents a challenge for many people, I believe the answer is a lot more obvious than we might expect. The reason God can be both loving and wrathful is because those emotions go hand-in-hand, not only for God but also among human beings. In order for God to be a God of love, he by necessity must also be a God of wrath. If you try to remove the wrath of God, you actually are creating a God of less love.
Think of it like this. When you love someone deeply, you care a lot about their well-being. You desire what is best for them. You want things to go well for them. You hope that they can create a wonderful life for themselves and that they are fortunate enough to avoid grief and hardship. That is the normal outworking of love for another person.
Then, I would ask, how would you feel if you saw your loved one making terrible choices with their life, if they were self-destructing before your very eyes? What would your response be if they were squandering so much potential and making life so much harder for themselves than it needed to be? The answer is that you would be upset about it. You would be sad, you would be disappointed, and you might even be a little angry.
Author Becky Pippert hits on this point in her book Hope Has Its Reasons. She says:
“Think how we feel when we see someone we love ravaged by unwise actions or relationships. Do we respond with benign tolerance as we might toward strangers? Far from it. … Anger isn’t the opposite of love. Hate is, and the final form of hate is indifference… Human love here offers a true analogy: the more a father loves his son, the more he hates in him the drunkard, the liar, the traitor… [Similarly], if I, a flawed narcissistic sinful woman, can feel this much pain and anger over someone’s condition, how much more a morally perfect God who made them? God’s wrath is not a cranky explosion, but his settled opposition to the cancer of sin which is eating out the insides of the human race he loves with his whole being.”
In other words, God is a God of wrath precisely because he is a God of love. He loves his creation and when he sees it being destroyed, it bothers him. He’s not happy about it. He desires better for us, because he loves us.
It’s not just that we (and God) get upset when people ruin their own lives. We also get mad when we see other people ruin the lives of those we love. When someone we care for is wronged, we rightly feel outrage. That outrage is an expression of love. We feel a deep-seated sense of anger that someone we love experienced unnecessary or unjust pain. And, not surprisingly, God feels the exact same way.
When God looks down on earth and sees injustice, when he sees adultery, when he sees abuse, enslavement, violence, neglect, rip-offs, lying, cheating, manipulation, coercion, slander, bullying, and divorce, what do you think he feels? Well, he feels exactly the same way you and I do. He hates it. He is angry. He doesn’t want it to be that way. What kind of a sick God sees the horrors that are committed by humanity and isn’t bothered by it? If God were to look upon the darkness of our world and meet it with a shrug of indifference, he would not be a God of love. His love demands that he respond with anger.
This is why it makes perfect sense that God is both a God of love and wrath. In fact, he cannot be one without the other. His love for his own creation makes his wrath a necessary part of his character. A God without wrath is not a God of love, at least not in a world where sin runs rampant. The mess and implosion that humanity finds itself in, God’s beloved creation, wells up within him a sense of frustration and anger over the whole thing. It is precisely his love that brings about such a response.
Most of the time I love being a pastor, but there are some things about the role that can be very frustrating. One of them (speaking for myself anyways) is when people act differently around me than they do in normal life, simply because I’m a “pastor”. Being in youth ministry, I see this all the time. Students have their regular, day-to-day life that they live out with their friends and family. For the most part, they let their guard down and just are who they are without giving it a second thought. Then, as soon as they get around me, a switch happens. Suddenly their language is different, their interests are different, their perception of life is different, and it is all faker than a face-lift on an aging supermodel.
I hate fake. I don’t care much for fake anything—knock-off brand cereal, flopping in the NBA, or auto-tuned singers. But I get especially annoyed when people are being fake. I think that as a pastor, I tend to get the fake version of people more often than the average Joe. I guess the perception is that I’m supposed to be some kind of holy man and so people should act holy around me. Next thing you know, people who normally cuss like sailors are talking like Mother Theresa. People who normally don’t give God three seconds of thought in the day are great theologians. And people who are sleeping around and partying on the weekend are really into the Newsboys and want to make sure I know about it.
It’s really not much fun being around fake people. It can be quite lonely. Rather than actually having a meaningful conversation with someone, I have a pretend conversation with them. They play the part, I nod along, and then it ends. They never showed their true colours, I never got any real chance to show genuine love for who they really are, and the whole thing is a waste of time. Most of the time I can tell when someone is being fake, even if I never let on that I know. I just play the game and hope one day the jig will be up and we can actually have a relationship that is real.
That’s why I appreciate whenever someone is brutally honest with me. I don’t even care if they disagree with me on just about everything I believe in—at the very least we can have a real, meaningful interaction. No faking, no acting, just talk and see where it goes. I love that kind of thing. When I walk through the halls of a high school or the mall, I see students I know in their natural environment. I hear how they talk and what they talk about. I see who they are around their peers. And even though it may include a whole lot of stuff that I’m not a fan of, I would rather they be that way with me and show their true self than fake it and feel like somehow they’ve won themselves a victory.
There are some students that I know who let their guard down around me even though you might not expect them to. They aren’t Christians. They don’t pretend to be. They say things I would never say, listen to stuff I would never listen to, and do things I would never condone. And yet I don’t jump all over them for it, and they don’t feel like they need to hide it from me. They know where I stand, I know where they stand, and that is that. We just are who we are and we have earned each other’s respect. We might talk about those hard things from time to time, and we might agree to disagree. So be it. I actually love when people are like that with me. It’s the way it should be.
What good can come from being a phoney Christian? There is little to gain and much to lose. A faker forfeits meaningful relationships. They must pretend to be someone they are not. They must lie to cover up whatever they are trying to hide. They carry the stress of putting on the mask at a moments notice, depending on who is in the near vicinity. And worst of all, they feel a measure of peace at hiding the parts of themselves that they deem unholy—and yet this peace is never full because it is a false peace, and they know it. So you managed to fool the pastor (or so you think)? Congratulations! You have succeeded in tricking someone you are not ultimately accountable to at the expense of increasing your guilt before the One you are ultimately accountable to. You have deceived the courtroom, but not the Judge. What gain will come of that?
An old Puritan named Thomas Brooks says this about people who fake their Christianity around people but don’t truly live it from their heart:
“Know that it is not the knowing, nor the talking, nor the reading man —but the doing man, that at last will be found the happiest man. ‘If you know these things, blessed and happy are you if you DO them.’ ‘Not everyone that says, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven—but he who DOES the will of my Father that is in heaven’ (John 13: 17, Matt. 7: 21). Judas called Christ Lord, Lord; and yet betrayed him, and has gone to his place. Ah! how many Judases have we in these days, that kiss Christ, and yet betray Christ; that in their words profess him—but in their works deny him; that bow their knee to him, and yet in their hearts despise him; that call him Jesus, and yet will not obey him as their Lord.”
The one who plays Christianity before men but denies it with their life is no true Christian. That person knows this is true, and God knows this is true. If you succeed in fooling others, all you have done is held off what appears to be the negative consequences of rejecting Jesus in a public way…aka, showing your true colours. Sure, you won’t get judgmental glances from other believers or sighs of disappointment from hopeful parents. But you also will be forsaking the love and friendship and blessing of God, and severing yourself from the Source of true joy and life. In other words, you get sin instead of Jesus, a surefire recipe for long-term misery if ever there was one. Fake people aren’t happy people.
Why bother wearing the mask? Why bother trying to please people who’s approval you probably don’t even care much for? Why be someone you’re not? God sees. God knows. You haven’t fooled him one bit. And truth be told, his opinion is the only one that counts. So just be real and authentic and honest about who you are. You don’t have to be intentionally provocative or needlessly rude about it. But for goodness’ sake, don’t fake it. If you do, everyone loses.
Christians condemn witchcraft, right? In word, yes, but in practice, not always. I believe there are many Christians who engage in what can be called Christian witchcraft. Let me explain.
Witchcraft is an attempt to control, manipulate, or engage with the spirit world through various practices such as spells, incantations, and rituals. Typically, in the Christian world, witchcraft is viewed as delving into the demonic realm and therefore something to be avoided. Scripture levies several warnings against witchcraft:
- Leviticus 20:27 prescribes the death penalty for those who are mediums or necromancers.
- 1 Chronicles 10:13 says that God put King Saul to death for consulting a witch for guidance.
- Galatians 5:20 lists sorcery among other damnable sins.
There is also no doubt that the Bible teaches the existence of spirit beings, both angels and demons. God forbids attempts to connect to the spirit world through any other means than by himself, and more specifically, through Jesus Christ (John 14:6). Therefore it should come as no surprise that Christians virtually unanimously denounce witchcraft and generally steer clear of it.
Except that I’m not so sure that really is the case. As I see it, many Christians have their own version of witchcraft that they practice. It doesn’t involve ouija boards, candles, horoscopes, crystal balls, tarot cards, and the like. But just because it doesn’t look the same doesn’t mean it’s not real.
In an interesting article, Kelsey Munger tells her story about growing up in a Christian family that was obsessed with the spirit realm. Her parents, both very devout Christians, had many different routines they practiced in order to combat what they perceived to be demonic attack. This included rubbing canola oil in the shape of a cross on their home’s doorpost, pouring canola oil in a barrier around the family property, praying over jewelry before wearing it, avoiding imported products for fear they were made by pagans and could carry demons, praying specific phrases repeatedly, and even scouring the backyard for objects that might have been placed there by a witch to curse the family.
You know what those practices are? They are not Christianity. They are witchcraft. They are attempts to control the spirit world through object-oriented rituals.
Some Christians might not go to quite that extreme but still demonstrate a similar pattern of thinking. They tend to blame everything on demons: headaches, a fender bender, lost car keys, a criticism at work, or a financial crunch. They might pray the demons out of a new car or new house. They tend to automatically assume the hippy next door is demon possessed. And they believe that rock music is from the devil.
Here’s why this is so problematic—there’s no Scriptural support for any of it. These are all beliefs and practices that find no basis in God’s Word. Instead, it is the result of taking the witchcraft mentality and applying it to Christian belief. It bears a closer resemblance to superstition than to biblical Christianity.
Back in 2014, a video made the rounds online of a Christian woman explaining why Monster energy drinks are of the devil. She points out that the Monster logo has some symbolism that can be interpreted as being references to the occult and the anti-Christ. At the end she concludes “this is how clever Satan is, and how he gets into the Christian’s home and the Christian’s life, and it breaks God’s heart. Jesus said, ‘My people perish for a lack of knowledge.'”
Let’s be clear: this is utter foolishness. This is Christian witchcraft. Satan does not enter people’s lives through energy drinks. He does so through sin and through unbelief. And though Jesus did say that people perish for a lack of knowledge, he didn’t have demonic symbolism on aluminum cans in mind.
This kind of obsession with the demonic is unhealthy and counter-productive. It does not lead to a life of godliness and fear of the Lord. It leads to a life of paranoia and fear of the devil.
Don’t get me wrong. Satan is real. Demons are real. The spirit world is real. Scripture says so and therefore we Christians ought to believe it. However, the Bible does not dwell on the spirit world the way we sometimes do. It does not emphasize it to the point where we should be on the lookout for demons everywhere we go. In fact, the pattern of the Bible is that overt demonic activity is at its most prevalent during the gospels and Acts, when Christ was on earth and the early church was just getting rolling. Contrast that with the entire Old Testament and the rest of the New Testament, where mention of demonism is very limited.
Although there is no doubt in my mind that Satan and demons are active in the world, and that they can and do manifest themselves in physical ways, that seems to not be the norm. In fact, it is the norm mostly among people who are already looking for it. Missionaries working in very pagan and spiritual cultures might encounter this more often. Those Christians who are obsessed with demonism are more likely to experience strange shadows on the wall. But this does not seem to be what Scripture paints as normal Christian experience. Satan and demons primarily work through deception, doubt, accusation, and the like. (Read an article I wrote about Satan’s tactics here.)
Some Christians will push back. You’re acting like Satan doesn’t exist! If you don’t guard yourself you will unintentionally invite demons into your life! To which I would ask, where does Scripture teach that? Where does it give such warnings? Yes, the devil is a prowling lion looking for someone to devour (1 Peter 5:8), but what is his access point to my life? Is it through the fortune cookies at the bottom of my Chinese takeout? Is it through the skull and bones on my child’s toy pirate ship? Or is it through my lack of Bible reading, my unconfessed sin, and my proud heart?
Far too many Christians focus on the former things while neglecting the latter ones. When believers begin to focus on material things as if they carry spiritual power, we are acting like pagans more than Christ followers. We have abdicated Scripture and become superstitious. And ultimately we will divert ourselves from the God to be glorified and the mission to be accomplished.
My point is this: when Christians find themselves constantly thinking about the devil and what they can do to ward him off, they have fallen into the trap of Christian witchcraft. They have taken their focus off of Christ, which is where it rightly belongs (Hebrews 12:2). They have begun to believe that power against demonic forces resides in rituals or objects and not in Christ alone. Recall that when demons encountered Jesus they trembled in fear and needed to ask for permission even to speak (Matthew 8:29, Luke 4:41). Christ rules over the spirit world, and since Christians are united to him by faith, he is the only weapon we need to face off against any forces of darkness that may oppose us.
This past week I was working on a sermon for Father’s Day when my daughter Bella walked into the room and asked me what I was doing. I told her that I was writing a sermon about being a great dad. Then I asked her if she could help me by telling me what she thinks a good dad would do. Little did I know she would take me so seriously! She sat down with me and compiled a list of 22 things that a good dad does. I share it here for your enjoyment!
- he’s helping
- he’s caring
- he preaches
- he works
- he does the dishes
- he drives
- he reads the Bible
- he uses the phone
- he shops
- he cooks supper
- he massages mom
- he plays
- he goes on daddy dates
- he prays
- he pays for things
- he plays pokemon games
- he goes to the park
- he waters the garden
- he goes to church
- he meets new friends
- he gives hugs and kisses
- he gives medicine
Not a bad list for a 6 year old! Now that I have an official job description I’d better get myself to work. Happy Father’s Day to all the dads out there!
According to the World Health Organization (WHO), approximately 1 million people commit suicide every year across the world. In Canada, where I live, that figure is about 4,000 annually. These numbers are tragic, because they are not really numbers at all. They represent the precious lives of human beings, people with names and faces and stories—not to mention the countless friends and family who are affected by their deaths.
My desire is for people to live. Not just to be alive, but to truly live. For that to happen though, some people simply need the end of a rope to cling to when all hope seems lost. To that end I offer these 13 suggestions for preventing suicide.
Remember that there is always hope. The darkness may seem insurmountable, but it is only there for a season. Every suicidal thought has an expiration date. Don’t give up! Better days really do lie ahead.
If you are someone who is feeling suicidal…
- Call an emergency hotline if you are in immediate danger. Try the suicide prevention hotline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255). For a list of other hotlines worldwide, click here.
- Tell someone if you are having thoughts of suicide. It can be a friend, parent, sibling, mentor, doctor, teacher, coach, counsellor, pastor…anyone who will listen and take you seriously.
- Seek out medical advice if you are dealing with severe depression, anxiety, or other mental health issues. Your physician can help you get what you need to cope.
- Avoid isolation. Negative thoughts have their greatest power when you are alone. Try to be around people in general, but especially those who love you and are supportive of you.
- Deal with any trauma that might be a major cause of your negative thinking. Talk to a counsellor who can help you begin to sort things out and get your life back on track. The death of a loved one, experiencing abuse, a family divorce…find someone to help you work through whatever you may be dealing with.
- Pray and/or keep a journal. If you believe in God, use prayer as an outlet for your thoughts and emotions. If not, try using a journal to dump out everything negative in your mind. Like a soda that’s been shaken, emotions that are bottled up become explosive.
- Get physically healthy. Physical health and mental health are not the same, but they can be strongly related. Exercise, get some sleep, and eat well.
- Keep a “board of gratitude”. Write on sticky notes everything you are thankful for and put it up on the wall. It could be small things like a funny joke you heard, a smile from a passing stranger, or a warm bed to sleep in. Try to put up at least one new thing every day.
- Be careful what you watch, read, and listen to. Music and movies can be powerful things. They can sway our thoughts and emotions for better or worse, so choose to consume only that which will build you up and inspire you. Try reading biographies of great people from history past or present.
- Go outside. Nature has a way of reviving the soul. Try to spend some time outside every day. Go for a walk, swim, gaze at the stars, or even just take one big breath of fresh air.
If you know someone who is feeling suicidal…
- Know the signs. You can click here to learn more or refer to the chart below.
- Be a supportive friend to those who are hurting. A comforting presence is sometimes the difference between hope and no hope. Listen and be available. Stick up for the victim when you see someone being bullied.
- Challenge negative assumptions. Someone who is suicidal believes things that simply aren’t true: I’m alone, I’m worthless, I’m ugly, I’m not worth anyone’s time, people would be better off without me, there’s no hope for me. Part of being a helpful friend is to identify those negative assumptions and challenge them with the truth. Show your friend why what they believe is wrong, but do it gently and not argumentatively.
Suicide isn’t the only option. Together we can find a better way.
This article is part of a series of posts on the Netflix hit show 13 Reasons Why. You can read the other entries by clicking below.
After watching 13 Reasons Why, there is much to be said about this wildly popular and controversial show. I will attempt to share some reflections in a series of posts over the next couple of weeks. I will link to other articles as they are published. Be warned, spoilers and tragedy ahead.
Reflection #5 – Not escape, but revenge
Hannah Baker thought she just couldn’t take it anymore. She had suffered enough disgrace from her fellow high school students and was ignored enough by the adults in her life that she decided to end her own life.
Hannah’s suicide is troubling enough. Any time suicide is portrayed in entertainment media it is a dicey thing. There are always concerns that those who are struggling with suicidal thoughts in real life might accidentally be encouraged to take their own life because of the example of another, even if that person isn’t real. 13 Reasons Why has surfaced such concerns. Hannah is a very likeable character, and some of her experiences are not all that uncommon from that of real life teens. It is conceivable that some 15 year old girl out there somewhere will watch the show and relate to Hannah so much that she decides to follow the same course of action.
This, however, is not a concern unique to 13 Reasons Why. Copycat behaviour of any kind can surface from a number of places and for a number of reasons. What is even more concerning to me is not only that Hannah Baker killed herself, but how she did it. I’m not talking about the stomach-churning razor blade scene in the bathroom though. I’m talking about the tapes.
As I covered in the first article in this series, Hannah records on 7 cassette tapes the 13 reasons why she has decided to end her life. Each side of a tape is devoted to a specific person who was a domino in the line that led to her fateful choice. These tapes, where she reveals these people’s sins against her, are intended to be passed around to each guilty party so that they can all listen to how they are collectively responsible for her death.
Copying a suicide is one thing—and unimaginably tragic at that. But to copy something like the tape scenario would be even more sick and twisted. In the show, Hannah claims not to have evil intentions with the tapes. And, to be sure, she is exposing evil that was done against her. But make no mistake about it, Hannah’s suicide is not just an act of escape—it is an act of revenge.
Hannah knows what the tapes will do to her classmates. She instructs the listeners to keep the content of the tapes private. Why? The only reason can be to inflict personal torment on her former friends. She desires for them to feel the full weight of their guilt and have no way out. She doesn’t really call them to change or to redeem themselves. She simply wants them to know that their actions made her want to die…and they are stuck to live with that forever.
There’s no doubt that many of the characters in the show should feel guilty. They wronged Hannah, and in some cases in horrific ways. But Hannah is not interested in their redemption. She is not really interested even in justice. Rather, she wants them to suffer like she did.
I seriously fear that some people who watch 13 Reasons Why might be influenced to copy Hannah’s actions. It is not uncommon to leave a suicide note, but Hannah does more than that. Her tapes are more than a record of why she did what she did. They are not even meant to explain things to her family. They are for no other purpose than getting even with those who hurt her. Her suicide is tragic enough, but the tapes make the whole situation an unimaginable monstrosity. Heaven help the family and community that ever has to endure in real life what this show portrays in fiction.
Not only did Hannah not have to kill herself, she also didn’t have to live in bitterness towards those who wronged her. There was another option. Hannah could have chosen forgiveness. This does not mean that she should not have sought justice for the things that happened. Bryce should have had rape charges pressed against him. Sheri should have had legal consequences for causing the car accident that killed Jeff. Many students should have faced serious penalties from the school and parents for their bullying and hurtful behaviour. But even still, Hannah did not have to hold a grudge against them. In fact, doing so is one of the reasons she did what she did. In her mind, with forgiveness not an option, she had no other way to live in her world of pain other than to leave it.
Though the show is intended to help those who are struggling with suicide, I fear that it might do the opposite. A better solution to Hannah’s suffering is never offered in the show. There is no alternative route that is suggested. A discerning viewer might recognize that Hannah’s actions are not helpful, but younger, more influential viewers (who are the shows primary audience) might not have the maturity to see it that way. They might look at Hannah as a hero. After all, she took control of her own life, she refused to keep allowing others to define her, she found a way to end the pain, and even a way to get even with those who deserved it. It’s as if Hannah’s ghostly hand reaches out from the grave and clutches those who wronged her and refuses to let go. Even in death she has great power over them.I worry that some hurting young person out there will see that and want it for themselves.
Yet Hannah’s post-life influence on others does not bring life, but more death. All of those who contributed to her problems are crushed under the weight of personal guilt and turn on each other. In the concluding episode, Alex shoots himself in the head and Kevin is seen stocking up on guns as if for a school shooting. Netflix has recently announced that there will be a second season coming out, so it seems we are in for another twisted round of death and destruction at every turn.
There is a better way. If we all insist on getting revenge with those who wrong us, the cycle of abuse and pain will just keep going around and around. No one will really get the help and love they need. We will all be trapped in a net of our own making. But it need not be that way. Hannah didn’t have to keep suffering in silence, and neither did her friends. There is hope for all of them, and it comes in the form of forgiveness. If Hannah had forgiven her enemies, even if she still sought out justice, she would have been able to live with herself. Some of the bitterness and pain would have washed away, and she could have found a means by which to carry on. If Hannah’s friends received forgiveness, they might have found freedom instead of enslavement to their dirty secrets.
Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. (Ephesians 4:32)
The healing balm of forgiveness is not a magic cure-all for personal pain, but it can afford freedom to those who are otherwise trapped in bitterness or regret. But 13 Reasons Why does not hold out forgiveness as a viable option. It’s a shame, because it is the very thing that everyone in the show needed. We all need forgiveness first from God—even those among us who are the butt-end of bullying are sinners in need of forgiveness. And, as those who have been forgiven by God, we can in turn forgive those who have wronged us. The chain of forgiveness is the only thing that can sufficiently replace the chain of anger that binds each and every one of us.
If you are someone who can relate to Hannah, I am asking you to consider seeing her end as a tragedy to avoid and not a victory to emulate. There is nothing victorious about it. Hannah cut off her own future and any hope that resided there died with her. Hannah’s parents are left traumatized and scarred for life. The classmates are buried in their own guilt with no hope of escape. All that happened is Hannah’s pain was passed on, and even magnified, in everyone around her. That is not a good outcome for anyone. She may have sought to make things right, but everything went disastrously wrong.
Suicide is not the answer. Revenge is not the answer. Hope and forgiveness is the starting place to a life of healing and happiness. It might not come immediately, but better days lie ahead. Hannah’s story shows us that she was a hurting girl who was sorely mistaken about how to handle it. I pray that would not be the same for you or anyone else.